Why are children unwilling to communicate with their parents, remaining silent? Why are children addicted to mobile games and unwilling to study?

         The months-long home learning environment, causing isolation from the world and a lack of face-to-face communication with peers, has caused children to experience some psychological stress responses: emotional distress such as depression and irritability; behavioral problems such as addiction to mobile games and unwillingness to study; and a decline in interpersonal communication skills and desire.

         In response to this, parents should maintain a calm attitude, avoid getting angry with their children, and fully understand the causes of their children's negative emotions and behaviors. Parental emotional stability is an internal and external influence that gives children a sense of security.

         "Learned helplessness" refers to a state of behavior and psychology formed through learning, characterized by hopelessness and helplessness towards reality.

         Ms. Wan Xiaoli further explained: "If parents say she is bad, she will think she is bad; if parents say he is stupid, he will think he is stupid. When parents equate a child's specific behavior with the child himself, the child will link his value to his performance."

         "Hoping for a son to become a dragon, a daughter to become a phoenix" is a typical expectation of Chinese parents for their children's future. Therefore, many Chinese parents, under the background of "examination-oriented education," unconsciously place unreasonable expectations on their children and engage in blind comparisons, neglecting the children's physiological differences and psychological needs.

         There is no such thing as a "stupid child" in the world. Every child is unique and excellent, and every child can exhibit diverse cognitive styles. Parents should correctly understand and accept the innate differences of their children , encourage more, criticize less, affirm more, and punish less.

         A parent once "complained" to our teacher: When the child was in public school, communication between the parent and teacher was minimal. Occasionally, the teacher would say that the child hadn't done their homework properly, but more detailed information was unavailable. With so many students in a class, the time allocated for home-school communication for each parent is too short, and the parent felt embarrassed to ask too many questions.

         In most compulsory education schools, for a teacher managing a large class of nearly 50 students, giving each student equal attention is simply overwhelming.

         However, this is unfair to the child and extremely irresponsible for the child's personal growth. For a child, being "seen" by the teacher means being acknowledged as an existing person, an independent person, and a person in the process of growth.

         Psychology says: Seeing is healing. A wise teacher will "see" with a sense of responsibility, viewing each student as an independent individual in the process of growth, who should be treated with kindness.

         Regardless of grades, there is no distinction between excellent and poor students. Because teachers know that students are like seeds, each with a different flowering period; some flowers bloom brilliantly from the start, while others require a long wait and careful cultivation.

         Compared to the teaching methods of ordinary schools, international schools place more emphasis on a balanced approach to cultivating students' academic abilities and skills, based on children's interests and intellectual characteristics, to discover their strengths, educate them according to their aptitude, and fully develop their talents. 。

         During the lecture, Ms. Wan Xiaoli visited our school's STEAM classroom and expressed her approval of the curriculum model that cultivates children's talents and curiosity.